A tough start to 2015

Welcome to 2015 everyone! While in past years I might have celebrated with a big hike, this year I felt a strong yearning to stay at home and relax, so that is what I did. Also, this year I am trying a different approach to the New Year by not setting any big goals for the upcoming 365 days. In fact, I want to do less in 2015. The pace of life lately has felt far too overwhelming for me. I want to ease up and take each day as it comes, filling it with things I enjoy without focusing so much on accomplishing x, y or z.

Part of that plan has to do with a rough end to 2014. My Dad’s health took a turn for the worse in the autumn. It is still hard for me to grasp, as Doug and I went on a trip with my parents to Portland and the Oregon Coast in August and my Dad was doing well. We toured museums, took in the gorgeous oceanfront scenery, visited brew pubs and all seemed fine. However, within a month’s time things changed unexpectedly and his health spiraled downward. I flew out for a visit in the end of October and it was heartbreaking to see the illness take such a toll. My mom has been trying her best to care for him and his doctors are working hard to find a treatment that works. My brothers and I all live far away making it hard to help day-to-day. I wish we were closer to provide more support.

I don’t know what to expect going into the next 365 days, but do any of us really? I do know that finding happiness in the present moment, taking things day-by-day and leaning on others for support is a good way to live in general and has gotten me through other hard times. This seems like a good approach as I head into 2015.

Touring Portland with my parents in August.
Touring Portland with my parents in August.

9 thoughts on “A tough start to 2015

  1. I’m sorry to hear about your dad’s health problems.

    I think the plan to set no goals (or at least less of them) is quite positive. I hope you’re able to enjoy a better year.

  2. Sorry to hear about your Dad’s health problems. It’s good that you and your family had the opportunity to enjoy each other during August. Those are the most important memories to cherish. Your Mom and Dad are fortunate to have a caring daughter to support them.

  3. You sound somewhat down-understandable. However, I know you will weather this family crisis and will, once again, tackle life with the same vigor and enthusiasm that we have come to expect of you.

    Don’t let us down!

  4. Hey Heidi, happy new year! Really sorry to hear about your dad. Wishing you and your family all the best for the coming year.
    This time last year I was facing emergency stoma surgery, terrified of the outcome. Reading your blog online made me feel so much better about my situation, realising that all the outdoor things I loved were not off limits. Now a year later I’m a lot better and, just as you said, my stoma doesn’t limit me at all.
    I also called you Carol while I was all drugged up! Oh, dear.

    Love Ellie xxx

  5. So sorry to hear about your dad’s ill health and really hope his treatment is effective.
    Yesterday was my two year “stomaversary”; it’s not been all smooth sailing since then, but certainly better than before and no regrets. Your blog has helped me so much with your honesty, practical suggestions and encouragement to live life fully.
    Thank you, Heidi.
    All the very best to you and your family.

  6. Heidi,
    So sorry to hear of your Dads health, I will pray for him. Having a Mom with health issues, I know how difficult it can be emotionally.
    Like you said, no one really knows for sure what tomorrow brings. Thank you for opening yourself up to the Ostomy world (and more), I know I have been so encouraged by your blog, and I know others have as well. Remember there are others there for you, just as you have been there for us!
    Happy New Year, and God’s blessings upon you and your family.

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